EXXON Oil Spill of the Mouth

Is it right to bite one's tongue when annoyed, or let 'em have it? Should someone unload on others just because they are ill, in pain, or in fear? It seems there are so many people investing in what they don't like, emotionally, then let it gush out of their mouths like an EXXON oil spill. It's hard to undo that sort of accident. When annoyed, I wait three seconds before speaking. The decompression time is invaluable. If I'm still annoyed after three seconds, I grab another three seconds. There have been entire 'conversations' where I've said nothing. LOL! If I speak while angry, well, it has not been so good.

Truth without compassion is cruelty.

Absense of Love Crimes

Is it a "Hate Crime" or is it an 'Absence of Love Crime'? Maybe ALL crime is a hate crime. If we are willingly hurting each other, it's at least the ACTION of Hate, even if a person didn't mean to be injurious. Indifference is even worse than hate, in my opinion. I wish that someone were hot or cold than indifferent. Once we turn the Heart off, we're toast. Progress, not perfection. We can do better. Willingness to grow along spiritual lines can flip even the worst of trauma.

7 Million Are Hungry in America, 7 Thousand Have Fake Welfare Accounts

1) We pay Heart Dead politicians. Where's the morality of that?

2) 'Brain Dead' is a by-product of desensitization of the heart.

3) As ee cummings wrote, anyone who pays any attention to the syntax of things will never wholly (love) you. Sartre said, "Hell is other people." I thought it was nonsense until I focused on the word, "other". Other parties. Other races. Other orientations. Other religions. Other classes. Other 'whatever...'

If I see you as my other me, that's the only use of other I can wrap my heart around.

A Few Thoughts on Healthy Feminine Culture & Perceptions

Females are so often taught that everything regarding self-worth is aesthetic or visual, outside-in appearance stuff. Perfect skin, magnificent hair, brilliant teeth, painted alluring eyes, and the list goes on. Commercials inundate females to look pretty, glamorous, thin, etc. and rarely characterizes integrity without physical beauty.

Yes, we are moving in the right direction, but we can absolutely do better. When I look at a fellow human beings' eyes, I look for heart & soul and prevent myself from thinking down below.

I know this goes beyond the scope of the point of simple dress code standards in our culture, perhaps, but even natural hair is to be removed from a females legs and armpits?  REALLY?  WTH! What's the point of celebrating prepubescence in adult females?

If we could dump all of the artificial BLAME MENTALITY BS from the way we view each other, our lives will be so less complicated.

But of course, correcting the course of culture to support a healthy feminine mystic based on reality will cause the commercial industry to suffer economic loss.

Me, I am good whether a woman wears makeup or not, shaves armpits/legs or not, goes to the beauty salons and comes out feeling like a million bucks from a great session with a stylist. That's all well and good, as long as it doesn't limit or define the person as less than what they indeed are, which is GOOD ENOUGH with or without botox, breast implants, or cosmetic surgery.

Love, Politics, God, HUmor, Focus, Rule 62.

Love, Only Love. God is Love. Politics is the Shadow World when ego gets involved. EGO: Edging God Out. Be not dismayed.They probably think they are trying to help you. Adam & Eve were codependent. LOL! Turn It Over, Live and Let Live, Let Go ~ Let God. YOU are not their problem and they are not YOUR problem. It's none of your business what others think of you. It also might not be any of your business what you think of you, either. What God thinks of us is all that matters. God-Esteem, not Self-Esteem.

Not Giving Up

I can't give up on my goal of speaking and writing.  It's what my life has boiled down to.  Don't quit before the miracle happens.  Health stuff has been my primary TEMPORARY obstacle.  It is going to affect all areas of my employment, whatever that looks like.  That being said, I'm looking for something that aligns with my speaking/writing goals.  If by August things are not significantly better financially, then I will consider other things.  Hazelden could be a Turning Point in July.  I'm currently studying a course with my girlfriend on marketing my business and still attending Toastmasters.  I'll be competing in speech contests over the next couple of months which could also open speaking doors.  I'm working on an essay for The Great American Think Off and if my essay is chosen, I'll be competing with other speakers to win the title for the competition.  Sometimes, CSPAN shows up to follow their contest.

 

Anyway, I'm working on a speech right now for next Monday, and will start a new Vision Board today.  My girlfriend and I will be hosting a Vision Board Workshop and I'll just be her Aide.

 

I'm not giving up, although being in pain is surely a distraction.  Prayer and diet, meditation, and attitude.  :-)

A Friend Felt He Wasted "all" of His Potential

ALL? That's a pretty big word (well, not so 'pretty').

Look, I know I'm using the "G Word" a lot, but here I go again: "In God's Economy, nothing is wasted." I used to get 'wasted' and had some lifetime consequences that most people would consider hellish. But we forgive regardless of the temperature of our hearts. That includes forgiving ONESELF for EVERYTHING so one can live a loving life. One moment of love is worth more than a lifetime of pain. It distills life to love oneself as it distills love to give it away without expectation of anything in return. Would you tell someone else their life was a waste? Treat yourself as you love others. Give yourself a break today (but skip McDonald's).

Beautiful Mystery Beyond Space & Time

An uncounted number of synchronicities has crossed my awareness the last couple of days, which lead me to meditate a titch on what slavery is and what it might mean. It seems that slavery is either tethered to Immersion or it's tethered to Exclusion. With Exclusion, the slave stays connected or 'Synchronized' to the thing resisted. To coin a well-known phrase, 'What we resist, persists.' One either backs away from or pushes away the thing targeted for Exclusion.

 

With Immersion, (my preferred obsessive mode for learning any given subject well), one delves into a discipline or endeavor and treats it like a religion, a college education, a political party, or maybe even a relationship. With Immersion, one trains their mind to 'notice' or 'create' things aligned or agreeing with their 'system' of Immersion. That is to say, it's like piling ideas higher and deeper (Ph.D.) and aligning one's life thesis within the confines of the Chosen One's Graduate Thesis.

 

Scientific "fact" never changes, said a scientist recently. He said belief and biology must be observable and repeatable in context of science. Is science his religion?

 

The paradox that said scientist might (and I say MIGHT because to be certain makes me a slave to my mastery and a Great Teacher said, "Call no man "Master") encounter is how the dream disappears when one awakens. But Eternal Progress (progress, not perfection) floats between two mirrors facing each other. If we want to change the dream, we move in-between. NOW we exist like Ether solidified, but only when we stop learning or moving. If we want to change the past or the future, MOVE. But mirrors are your free servants.

 

Truth and Falsehood both seem to teeter on the same fulcrum called Paradox. Eating from the Tree of the Knowledge of Duality is a trick, a trap, an ambush. Distract the snake until he eats himself. Then the Tree of Life will be a Beautiful Mystery. I LOVE Mystery.

Speech Tonight at Northern Lights Church, Anoka County MADD

Tonight, Marcia's husband said I am a 'helluva good speaker'.  It's the first time he's heard me speak, despite his setting up Panels with Marcia that I've spoken on.  It's a good feeling to hear a victim speak well of my contributions through speaking.  

I also met a young man who heard me speak "a couple of days ago" for MADD.  He gave me his email and I could tell he was motivated to raise his awareness.

A "Friend of Lois" brought her son to the Panel.  She looked familiar while I was speaking, so I think I've seen her somewhere.  She nodded and raised her hand when I asked if anyone in the audience was familiar with Synchronicity.  She introduced herself aFTER THE pANEL AND I MET HER SON WHO RESOLUTELY SHOOK MY HAND, LOOKED ME IN THE EYE, AND SAID HE WAS TRULY MOVED BY THE PRESENTATION, THAT IT Really helped him.

I sold a book to a totally receptive audinece meber, too.  

Progress in Speaking & Writing

I have many speaking activities set up this month (MADD & a Treatment Center~see my speaking calendar), with proposals to speak to the Minnesota Correctional Association annual Fall Conference, Rotary Clubs, and several other schools and organizations.  

I'm editing my Little Book of Miracles and buying copies after editing is completed.  

Which Plays a Larger Role in Shaping One’s Life: Success or Failure?

The question is a classic philosophical quandary meant to inspire thinkers from all walks of life. Did winning push you harder to be your best? Or did losing motivate continued growth to overcome?

Life is both brutal and beautiful.  Our beauty is more powerful than our brutality.  Forgiveness is more powerful than the offense that required its presence. I was an abused child and yes, I am more than what happened to me. A woman is worth more than the rape infracted against her. I choose to forgive, despite the temperature of my heart. But I needed a miracle for it to happen. I couldn't forgive my Offender without the help of my Higher Power. Most solutions are simple, but not always easy.

I can be as happy as I make up my mind to be, even in the midst of an assault. I've met countless people who are in the midst of the Alcoholic War Zone, but who sing like larks whether the Alcoholic is drinking or not. I know a woman whose son was killed by an alcohol-impaired driver. She hugged the young man in court who killed her son, saying, "I love you and I forgive you for killing my son."

In God's Economy, nothing is wasted. 

The wound that offends is the one left behind, Unforgiven.  Forgiveness always runs deeper than the wound that preceded and required its presence.  Oprah said, "Make your wounds your wisdom."